Wouldn’t it be great if we could do something for only a couple of hours and it would work out? I find myself thinking this more so on the weekends than during the week because I want to get so much done and I have so little time. I have been working out with PiYo and I am at the end of week 3 right now. I have “skipped” one day in favor of PM yoga, but really I just swapped my rest day a day early. I needed the mindfulness of yoga and I was aware of that in that moment. I also had high hopes for weight loss when I started this program. But then I did the math, and in order to maintain a 1,200 calorie diet (which is the minimum recommendation for women) mathematically I knew I couldn’t lose more than 1 lb per week. And I really had to be okay with that. I couldn’t compare myself to the people who lose 5 lbs per week, because I knew that just wasn’t feasible. On top of that, it’s not feasible for most people. Continuously losing 5 pounds a week requires an average calorie deficit of 2,500 calories per day. It’s not just about what you eat, but also how and when you eat at this point. There’s an understanding of how your body works, but also, you will not lose weight if you aren’t starving your adipose tissue (fat cells).
But this post isn’t just about weight loss. I wanted to start with that because it is something I struggle with, and I have seen others struggle too. It’s also about the housework and the errands and the time spent with family/friends. The weekend is such a wonderful opportunity to catch up on things that didn’t get fit into the week because you don’t have to worry about work (for most of us). The downside is, that each day has the same 24 hours regardless of how you fill them. I slept for almost 10 hours last night because I filled my Friday with tons of friends and activities. I wanted to quit about halfway through the night, but I’m really glad I didn’t. It didn’t change any of the errands that I ran today. It didn’t change anything about how I spent my Saturday (except how much coffee I consumed). I wish I could have just snapped my fingers and gotten everything done, but then I wouldn’t have the moments of happiness and accomplishment. I also worked much harder during the week to make sure that little things that don’t take as much time so that I do have some downtime and I am not just running around constantly.
At the end of the day, there are a lot of ways that you can try to implement a quick fix. Hire a maid instead of cleaning yourself. Have your groceries delivered instead of going to the store. Eat a lot of salad instead of going out to eat. All of these work, but for me, they just don’t bring the same sense of joy and accomplishment and that’s a problem for me. If it’s not a problem for you, and money allows, then choose those things that give you the peace of mind.
What is your favorite way to spread out your work so that you don’t feel overwhelmed? Or, what makes you feel overwhelmed that you wish you could do less of?
Full disclosure: I’m still figuring this bit out myself. Growing up I never had official chores, you just cleaned what was dirty and something was always dirty. Now that I’m an adult, I need to figure out what that’s means for me… and honestly it looks like it means I clean when things are dirty. Even just before I sat down to write this, I took a shower and noticed that it was draining slowly (actually really really slowly). I also noticed the ring forming around the tub. I immediately started cleaning up once I was toweled off and robed up. My dream is to clean before things look yucky. I hate it when things look yucky.
Okay, so in my ideal world dishes get done daily. Floors get swept and mopped twice weekly (or we get a dog, who does this for me). Bathrooms get cleaned twice monthly. Sheets get changed monthly. Vacuuming weekly. Tidying daily. None of this is reality. Absolutely none of it. I have successfully used my bullet journal to follow through on so many plans and somehow cleaning is not one of them. So, I got to thinking about how I could make sure that I corrected the course of this. Eventually, it led to the idea of speaking your plans aloud to yourself, promising yourself that you will do it, and scheduling a time when it will get done.
This is something I do often. I do it whenever there is something I do not particularly want to do. Work, errands, exercise, blogging, knitting. Even my favorite habits seem unappealing at times. So if that’s true, how can I possibly expect things that I don’t want to do to sound great? I am very good with my calendar in my bullet journal, which means that if I know how often I want things done, I can write them in ahead of time. That also means that as the time approaches to get it done, I have to start bringing it to my conscious mind. I have to remind myself that this is something that needs to get done, and if I do it then I can move on to the fun stuff. When chores are spread out and/or divided amongst people, it really doesn’t take that much of a time commitment to get them done. The commitment is completely mental.
Do you have any tips or tricks to get your chores done when they should be done instead of when they need to be done? I would love to hear them!
This weekend I want to share my fitness journey with my friends. I have blogged about my fitness journey in the past (Targeting Fat Loss, Vegan Week, Fitaversary, T25) But this post comes from two places in my mind and heart: (1) I just finished Week 1 of PiYo and (2) I have been having issues with my hypothyroidism.
Good people in your fit fam will tell you over and over that the number on the scale doesn’t matter. And they aren’t wrong. The number on the scale doesn’t define you- what you can do during a fitness program and in your day to day life defines you. Your happiness and your strengths matter more than any number in the world. However, what this neglects is that because I was unable to control my body through diet and exercise, the number on my scale is in a decade I promised myself I would never reach. What’s more is that it’s at the high end of that decade. I am knocking on the door of 15 pounds more than I promised myself the scale would never say.
That said, I still haven’t reached my rock bottom. I thought that if I ever saw this number on the scale I would break down and cry like I was straight out of a dramatic scene in a movie/TV show. But I didn’t. I honestly just stood there, took a deep breath, and said to the mirror “so where do we go from here?” I already had a plan, I already had the tools, I already had the implementation. Which means “where we go from here” is to another specialist’s office that I have no interest in being in.
Here’s the bottom line: I have fitness goals, I have calorie goals, I have food goals. I have the number of the office I need to call first thing Tuesday morning. I have everything I need to work this out and get my health in order. It’s so hard when you look in the mirror and love what you see. It’s so hard when you smile through a workout, and get your sweat on. It’s so hard when you want five donuts, and you substitute with something else. It’s so hard when you have to modify your workouts because of a sprained foot. It’s so hard… But you have to do it anyway.
#ConfessionTime: What is one thing that you have been stopping yourself from doing, that you are going to have the courage to try anyway? Share in the comments if you feel comfortable.
People often tell me how soft my hair is. It occurred to me basically on a whim that I should share my hair care secrets. I don’t actually know which of these is *the* secret, but I know I must be doing something right because I recall my very dry and damaged hair less than a year ago.
Scalp care I’m putting this first because I honestly believe that if you read no further than this paragraph you’ll be better. When I realized that the dry hair wasn’t just my hair, and it was also my scalp, I decided to make some changes. I started taking Vitamin E. I noticed changed after about 3 weeks of taking the supplement every day. My scalp was never itchy, and I wasn’t dousing it in any kind of oils or conditioners to get it that way. My head felt lighter in a way. Sometimes I get in a bad habit of forgetting, and enough forgetting is noticeable. I do need to take it with food because it upsets my stomach if I don’t, and that’s usually where the forgetting comes in. I’ll remember 10 times a day, but all either without food or without vitamins. If anybody has tips as to how to fix this I would love to hear them!
Washing I wash my hair once a week. Sometimes I blow dry, sometimes I don’t. But I straighten it almost every day. Usually without problems too. For shampoo and conditioner I use Pureology hydrate (above). I have highlights and I love that the shampoo doesn’t dull them. The conditioner also smells and feels amazing and it’s one of my favorite moments of the week. This regimen was suggested by an old stylist when I was in undergrad, and though I have deviated a couple of times since, I have found this to be the best. I towel dry my hair, and then add Cantu’s leave in conditioner (below) and brush it through with a wide toothed comb. I also sleep with my SoftSheen Carson satin sleep cap (top photo) on every night. Occassionally, though less often now, I pre-treat with 100% pure coconut oil (organic coconut oil works well). I leave it in for 20 minutes prior to washing, then wash my hair as usual. I stopped this step once I no longer had problems with extensive dryness. I found it great as a restorative technique, but less necessary to me now.
My hair has been natural for almost 2.5 years now. I was a chemical treated child and my life has changed so much going the natural route. The day to day and week to week is definitely more work, but my hair feels better so it’s worth it. I also can get my hair colored with more confidence because I’m not worried about compounding types of chemicals and their effect on my hair. I highly recommend putting in the work to figure out what your hair needs because you will be so happy once you do!
What are you favorite hair products/routines?