May I please have a moment of your time?

I am a busy bee. I try to make time for everyone and everything and while I do a pretty good job, I definitely am not perfect.

These days I’m awake before my alarm, I get my morning exercise in, shower, make some breakfast and head out the door all before 7:45 AM. I get to work and I get shit done. I usually head out between 4:30 and 6:00 PM, go home, get some grub, workout again, then do something around the house. I am exhausted night after night. Despite this, yesterday I realized that I was not giving people the time they deserve.

It is not a lot for someone to ask for your time, but people rarely do. And when they do they will often feel badly asking a second time, especially in the absence of a reply, because they feel like you’re too busy to give them time. BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER BE TOO BUSY. Whether these are people in your work or personal life, you need to find the time to give them something. Now, if your retired parents want to go on a 3-week vacation and you have 2-weeks of vacation time maybe that whole 3 weeks isn’t going to happen. Likewise, if you don’t get paid overtime and someone at work wants you to pick up something extra that’s going to keep you there for an extra few hours every day maybe you want to try to delegate that work. However, there are more than two options. Don’t just assume it’s do nothing or do everything.

I view the world as a network. There are people around me every day that I know and don’t know– I’m not just talking about the people who I share my building with, but the people that I share the street my building is on with and beyond. If somebody in this network is asking for my time, I should give it to them. It could be as simple as someone needing directions when you’re in a hurry, stop, help, pick up the pace later. And feel good that you helped someone else, not badly that you had to give your time up. Think of it as an investment, hopefully someone will come back and repay you with their time.

Time is one thing that we cannot create, but we can choose how we use it. I am making the choice to use my time to give other people what they need to help themselves and knowing that in doing so I am still furthering my career and bettering myself as a person. I am not in this world alone and therefore offering some time to help others even though I have my own priorities and agenda will help me grow.


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A web-based soapbox of an Assistant Professor of color in Chemical Engineering; sharing my feelings on books, academia, and current events. I hope you enjoy reading :)

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