What’s holding you together?

As I title this and ponder how to start, all I can think about is the scene from The Incredibles when Edna Mode goes “pull yourself together!”

The simple truth are that it’s much easier to listen to someone point it out than it is to shop something about it. I have often felt consumed with stress of coming through for my adviser, performing well in my classes, or simply managing everything I must do, and want to do, in a finite amount of time.

What I have successfully moved away from is needing someone to hold the glue that puts me back together when I’ve crumbled under the pressure. I’m not like carbon under pressure: it molds me into a beautiful diamond when I come out. I am not broken and glued together; I am whole.

What I think this all comes down to is attitude. Having a positive attitude towards the events life takes you through goes a long way. It’s of course okay to get overwhelmed and need someone to lean on, but ultimately, you need to be able to mold yourself. It’s just you and your life at the end of the day. As I typed the previous sentence, I could not help but thinking of the people who are almost impossible to separate from what I view as integral in my life.

This is a good point to reiterate. We can have people help us. We can have people support us. We cannot have people constantly gluing us together. Every time we get reconstructed, we lose pieces. Every time we get glued, we gain something that is not really ours to own.

At the end of the day, when you go to bed at night, can you think to yourself and honestly feel that what you have accomplished and endured has sculpted you? Do you feel prepared for what the next day has to offer? If not, I encourage you to to make progress towards both of these things. Going to bed with a clear head does wonders for your sleep schedule, your dreams, attitude in the morning and thus throughout the day, and repeat.

Published by She Got The PhD

A web-based soapbox of an Assistant Professor of color in Chemical Engineering; sharing my feelings on books, academia, and current events. I hope you enjoy reading :)

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